For some reason, there are unusually large amounts of websites that are trying to sell the same information that you’ll get by reading a decent blog for huge sums of money. When you are in a period of emotional distress and are acting illogically, I suppose it would be easy to put your faith in the idea that paying for knowledge is going to make you get your ex girlfriend back quicker and getting her back would be worth the money.
Getting your ex back is never going to be easy for you or your ex. In general, there’s a reason your relationship broke down and to get back together with your ex you are going to have to convince them of why they should get back together with you and how you will make things different if they decide to give you another chance.
For this reason, people often advise that when you break up with your ex, you should try to avoid talking to them for quite a while whilst your emotions calm down and you get a level head. Being able to think straight is really important because people often act on a purely emotional basis and this almost never works out the way they hope it will. Emotions will lead to dangerous and annoying behavior, like calling and texting your ex repeatedly until they finally pick up. It is a major waste of everyone’s time when someone does this and you’ll want to make sure that it isn’t you who makes this amateur mistake.
Giving your ex time to get their head straight is the most important thing that you can do to try and get your relationship back on track. The difference between those who get their ex partners back and those that do not get them back is the amount of effort that they put in to improving themselves over the time period that you now have free. This is where most of the money making scams are perpetrated, by getting you to buy their expensive book about how to improve yourself. You don’t actually need a book based on self improvement to help yourself out, you just need to figure out the flaws in your personality and go from there. In general, meditation is one of the most useful and widely applicable skills that you can learn and mastering meditation will make you more mindful about what harm/good your actions can cause in the greater world.
When you are mindful of what is going on in your life, you’ll be able to spot problems before they are problems and take the requisite steps to stop them from happening. The saying goes ‘The best medicine is prevention.’ and this is never more true in relationships.
After you have spent a while meditating on the relationship and where it all went wrong, try to show your ex how you understand how they feel and understand more about the problems they faced and you are trying hard to make sure they don’t happen. Demonstrating this is key, as words are simply words and anyone can say they will change, without lifting a finger and doing any of the hard work required to truly change rather than act in a different way in the presence of others. This, if you do it correctly should be enough to get your ex back, for a second chance at the relationship with them. Once you actually have your ex back however, the real tough work begins. You will have less time to improve yourself as you will be spending lots of the time you had with your partner and that means you have to focus on more things that can go wrong in less time. Whilst you can stop a fair share of problems in a relationship, it is not fair for your partner to blame any mishap on you.
Whilst I recommend trying harder and improving yourself to get your ex back, don’t become a pushover who is too eager to please in the process. Nobody respects someone that they can just walk all over, so make sure this isn’t what you end up becoming. In addition, do you really want your ex back or is it simply the companionship you are missing? Lots of people get focused on getting their exes back with no thought about what they are going to do if they actually get them back. This often leads to break ups again in a short period of time in the future, meaning you should be careful what you wish for.