Sex drives our world. We are bombarded with confusing ideas of sex in advertising, movies, music. If one gets the wrong messages, one would think that the key to a good sex life is to sleep with a bunch of strangers. Wildly carousing through the streets latching onto someone nearby, feeling the thrill of uncertainty, unfamiliarity, and letting your desires fly. Love does not work in this manner. Love becomes stronger through time spent together and wonderful memories. Maintaining the thrill in a relationship crucial. Periods of readjustment are necessary over the span of a long-term relationship. If you are bored with the idea of sex with your partner, then it is time for a readjustment. Take the action necessary to reignite your passion. Build your love nest, empower your imagination, foster your creativity, and give your partner a night they won’t forget.
Transform Your Love Nest
We have all seen the romantic, sensual sex scenes in movies with the candlelit room, the music, the slow build to an amazing evening movies, but how often do we actually put the effort and time to replicate these scenes and arouse all of our senses? The movies are able to turn us on and they are only using two of the five senses, sound and sight. Imagine if we actually incorporated all five senses. If we arouse all five, we become fully engaged in the moment. So, take the time to assemble a bedroom that can quickly and effectively transform into your love nest. Set candles on bookshelves and tables. Have photographs of nature on the wall. Make a playlist with song that will create a unique memory. I’m talking about songs that are just saying she is a nice gal, or he is your one true love. Put on some sexy music with bass and a melody that builds over time. Your purpose is to serve the other person and give them a memory they won’t forget. Make them feel sexy. They will thank you in many ways.
Start the Build Up Early
The idea is to plant the seed of desire early in the day. Trigger the idea of sex in your partner’s mind and let their imagination chew on it. In the movies, we see the swell guy send the gal a bouquet of flowers. She is flattered, blushes. They kiss and we never see what happens next. This happens in forty year old movies, or with boring partners. Think about the movies now. We live in a different time. Send your partner a few sexy text messages. Give a few hints. Let your partner play back. Like a tennis game, you are hitting the ball back and forth. This activity is fun, amusing and creates energy. Sex is playful; Be playful. Change the intensity with the pacing and language of the text. When you are writing the text, use descriptions that appeal to the five senses. If your partner can imagine the visuals, the touches, the smells and tastes, they will be ready to jump you at a moment’s notice. Spend time writing consecutive messages, then take a break, only to return later. Both of you will become more aroused, and your arousal will only build. Pay more attention to the psychological factors of our sex drive. A woman’s sex drive is predominantly psychological. Guys, through text messaging you could make her feel as if she just had sex with you. Powerful. The experience for guys is also greatly enhanced through psychological play, as well. Both of you will encounter a more aroused mate and the intensity will build to a level you thought would never be reached. Stay playful and the night will be an experience you won’t forget.
Switch It Up
Research different sex positions and use four to five different positions in a session. Spend time researching new techniques that will excite you. Sure, the amount of different positions may be daunting, but here is a clue that will help. Any position counts. A back massage counts. Oral sex counts. Even playing with their hair and giving a scalp massage could count as a position. Using a toy counts. Each position counts so long as you spend the time to vary the pace and intensity. Remember back to when you were texting your partner. You were experimenting with the pace and intensity of the messages. You began to notice the energy building through playfulness. In the bed, you must foster the same playfulness. Keep the other person guessing. Both you and your partner will never feel bored again. Think of it as a rock concert that is building to atmosphere. Each song in set is chosen to change the pace and intensity. By the end of the set, the band wants to build to a great climax, ending with the highest energy possible. Think of your sex life in this playful way. Afterwards, you may get a few encores. The variety of pacing and intensity of multiple positions, will transform your sex from a quick session into an event to remember.
Take Life’s Rewards
Make a commitment to enjoy all of life’s pleasures. This is the part of the article where the advice transforms into a life philosophy. There are moments when our senses should be our primary input of information. Sure that sounds technical, but lets think further. With sex, we are meditating on all of the senses. The busy world outside no longer exists; time is no longer a concern. This focus on the senses allows our brain to take in the moment uninhibited. We are fully engaged in the present moment. You can practice this awareness of the senses every day. Practice meditating on the taste of your morning coffee, go to a wine tasting, smell and taste every detail of your meal. Go to the gym and feel the contraction of your muscles. Go for a run and celebrate your body’s ability to move and flow with high-energy. Take a hike through the woods, or park. Enjoy the beauty and peace. By renewing our focus from time to time on life’s greatest pleasures, we are practicing moments when we can become completely aware of the present. Our ability to focus on one moment will not only enhance our sex life, but also the way we spend our leisure time.
Take time and creativity to change your sex life. Even in one night, you can give your partner something unpredictable and tantalizing. You may feel awkward at first, but you can get used to this sort of sex life quickly. You will feel your relationship become stronger and life itself become more vibrant. By taking time to enjoy life’s pleasures, your senses come alive. Your food tastes better than ever. Nature becomes more vibrant. Art and music speak to you louder than ever before. And, your bedroom becomes a place where you and your partner express each other’s deepest desires.